Dear LA Department of Children and Family Services: re Nadya Suleman

March 4, 2009

Would you please do me and the rest of my fellow citizens on this site a favor?

We have one specific request -- above and beyond your never sending those octuplets home with Nadya Suleman and instead finding 8 couples to adopt them.

You are aware that the other six children said they did not want them?

The oldest girl, 6, said it would not be fun to have all those siblings - that there would be a lot of crying and that her mom "is gonna be stressed out all the time".

That means she has already seen her mother stressed out and that she knows what sets off her mother.

A child so young should not have to have such concerns.

A child so young not have to be worried about crying infants setting off her mother.

A child so young should be just that - a child - and that will never happen if those octuplets are allowed to go home.

Doesn't this little girl matter?

Her life?

Her sanity?

And what of her mother's?

It needs to be put to the test and here's an easy way to do it.

While she is there at the hospital instruct her to sit and wait, alone, in a room with the door closed. Find a room (preferably one she has never been in) with no windows.

Do not permit her any distractions: purse, cellphone, mirror, books, magazines, TV, radio, ipod, food, gum, water, sink, toilet, Kleenex, etc.

She is to sit there with nothing but her own mind.

Option: Spice the room up spoilt milk and/or body fluids. Nothing overt - just an unmistakable hint of something that preferably she will not be able to locate.

Tell her you are not sure when you'll be in to talk to her, but assure it will be soon and that it is very important she stay in the room, so she will be ready.

Do not stipulate for what or answer any of her questions.

Exit.

But before you do, make absolutely certain that she understands she cannot, under any circumstances, leave the room or even open the door until someone comes to get her.

I think you'll need a sentry - she's not exactly proven herself trustworthy.

Then make her wait.

How long is up to you. The best tactic would be to show up in five minutes and when just about to sit down put a look of distress on your face and run out of the room.

Once again, instruct her that it is very important she be ready when you get back.

Stress the absolute importance of it - convey it in your voice, eyes and body. After enough visits she might just learn to recognize it.

Optimally, you would be able to repeat this with many different people, each one a little more convincing than the last.

Placing her close enough to hear an alarm (that is not being triggered by a sick neonate) would be optimal.

Observe if at any time she wonders if it is her infants causing you to leave the room.

If she inquires, assure her it is not.

Take note of what, if anything, she asks and how she asks it - the tone of her voice, her affect, etc. Watch her body language. Listen for concrete reasoning and if she is at all grounded in maternal reality.

Videotape would be ideal, especially for future court proceedings.

Most importantly, she cannot be allowed to escape her physical reality.

If she opens the door, refuses to remain inside, locks the door or leaves the room - for any reason - she fails.

Period.

You must convey this, though not in absolute terms.

Continue this for as long as you are able.

Watch her reactions to her own restriction of will when nothing is riding on it.

Document on paper everything she says. If you have a body language person, all the better. Hers is as transparent as a five-year-old with an imaginary friend.

Make sure to note what she does not inquire about - what never crosses her mind.

Do not give her any information and do not answer her questions.

Keep the look of alarm on your face. If she asks about it, pretend you don't know what she means.

The key is to keep her off guard by varying the intervals and using different people - some mumbling, some saying nothing, some making eye contact, some sitting , some standing. Make sure that at least eight separate people go in there - preferably eight people she has never before seen.

The more you keep her wondering - the better.

A change of shift would be optimal.

Just prior to the last visit, give her a not-so-sweet smelling pillow and blanket - maybe with some stuck-on food or melted crayons - and tell her to close her eyes and rest for five minutes. Assure all is well and that finally you will be able to come and take care of her needs: water, food, lip gloss, whatever.

Wait however long you are able and then storm into the room, turn on the lights and make noise. Occupy her space, but do not make direct eye contact or give her any clue as to what is happening or why.

Then, at intervals of your choosing, bring the next seven people in, until you are all standing around her moaning, crying, and making whatever sounds you like.

Do not talk or respond to her. Do not communicate in any way other than sound. She is to decipher what you need and how to proceed.

How she reacts will tell you if she is fit enough to take those infants home.

It will give you practical eyewitness live action testimony of her coping skills.

My guess is she won't last 30 minutes by herself and will use some sort of somatic complaint to leave the room.

If by some miracle of science she handles 60 minutes of the scenario above (I will personally buy all eight of you a new car), bring in another six people acting age appropriately for her other six children - including the three with neurological disabilities - with someone displaying the boy's characteristic autistic behavior.

If she survives that - I'll buy you all your own mansions and put all 14 children through medical school.

There is your fitness test. No hypothetical questions - no questions at all. Just her real time response to stress, which is all that is needed to determine whether she can cope.

And if you get it on videotape, all the better. You could then show her how she responded and she would be able to see with her own eyes the reality of her distorted reality.

And all it took was some time, some adults, some acting, some alarm props, some unexpected visits, some deprivation of her needs and NOISE, NOISE, NOISE, NOISE, NOISE, NOISE, NOISE, NOISE.

Thank you for your consideration.

Feel free to let us know how it went. We will be looking for your report.

Sincerely,

Mattie, for Miss Etta Mae Jenkins, 88, mother of 15, grandmother of 49, great-grandmother to 27 (two sets of twins) and great-great grandmother to 2 and 2/3rds, and for the rest of my fellow citizens, some of whom have returned to protest this madness.

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(1-30) Octuplets: Ethics of fertility treatment?
(1-30) Octuplets: What is really going on?
(2-3) Octuplets: Publicist Joann Killeen on Larry King
(2-9) Octuplets: Should not go home with that woman
(2-9) Octuplets: Octuplets: already filthy house unfit for children (pix)
(2-16) Octuplets: Publicist Joann Killeen quits admits death threats
(2-23) Octuplets: Mother vs grandmother caught on tape
(2-24) Octuplets: Cosmetic surgery, IVF, food stamps, disability, bankruptcy & foreclosure
(2-24) Octuplets: Mother before/after plastic surgery & Angelina Jolie (pix)
(2-25) Octuplets: Grandfather on Oprah daughter “not mentally complete”
(2-25) Octuplets: Hospital questioning her ability to care for children
(2-26) Octuplets: Video of inside the home
(2-26) Octuplets: Body language mother vs grandmother video (Part 1)
(2-26) Octuplets: Body language mother vs grandmother video (Part 2)
(2-27) Octuplets: Man claiming to be sperm donor
(2-27) Octuplets: Grandmother on The Early Show (Part 1)
(2-27) Octuplets: Grandmother on The Early Show (Part 2)
(2-27) Octuplets: Grandmother on The Early Show (Part 3)
(2-27) Octuplets: Grandmother’s first interview (Feb 9th)
(2-28) Octuplets: Dr Phil talks with new publicist Victor Munoz on Larry King
(2-29) Octuplets: What about the other children?
(3-3) Octuplets: Gloria Allred & *Angels in Waiting* (CBS video)
(3-3) Octuplets: Gloria Allred & *Angels in Waiting* offer (press conference)
(3-2) Octuplets: *Angels in Waiting’s* free 24/7 care for all 14 REFUSED
(3-2) Octuplets: What is it going to take?
(3-3) Octuplets: Sen Hudgens (R-GA) “Octomom Bill”
(3-4) Octuplets: Dear LA Department of Children and Family Services: re Nadya Suleman
(3-5) Octuplets: 911 call “I’m gonna kill myself!”
(3-6) Octuplets: Nadya, Gloria Allred, *Angels in Waiting* & Dr Phil
(3-6) Octuplets: Dr Phil on The View: “Her contact with reality is fleeting at best”
(3-9) Octuplets: Nadya accepts *Angels in Waiting’s* offer
(3-9) Octuplets: Agreement between Nadya, Gloria Allred, *Angels in Waiting* & Dr Phil
(3-9) Octuplets: Grandfather purchase $564,900 house
(3-9) Octuplets: Second publicist, Victor Munoz, quits: “This woman is nuts!”
(3-10) Octuplets: Updated list of posts

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